When love becomes dangerous

When love becomes dangerous

Love comes into our lives in various forms. It has all the positive emotions attached to it. But can this love become dangerous? Yes, in some cases, misunderstanding the feeling of love can lead to negative results. 

 Today we will talk about the other side of "love."

One-sided love and breakups become so impactful that one starts thinking of hurting the other person, which may lead to a loss of life.

But why these extreme reactions? What could be the reason? Why does hurting someone seem to be a solution?

Is this true love?

When we love someone, we start thinking about spending our future with that person. The other person is also reciprocating the love. But what happens when only one person starts thinking that conquering the other person is the right kind of love?

What factors contribute to violence in love?

1. Home environment

2. Social media

3. Peer pressure

4. Prior negative experience

5. Behavioral issues

And some other factors, etc.

Almost every serial or movie that is based on love shows taking revenge or harming the other person as acceptable behaviour. They make heroes out of villains.

We are often asked how to know if we are in the wrong relationships. Here are the signals we have noted down. There might be more to the list; feel free to send your feedback.

Signals to look for

1. Over possessiveness

• tracking your each and every action, keeping a watch right from your clothes to what you eat, where you spent time, and how much time you spent with whom.

2. Trust issues

• checking your phone, asking for your email passwords, following you even if you didn’t ask for it, calling your friends to check on you, asking for your social media passwords, and keeping track of who follows you.

3. Spending too much money

•  Gifting expensive gifts for no reasons or asking for money every now and then

4. Physical harm to a partner or self harm

5. Anger issues

• Shouting in public or on the phone to seek attention

6. Alcohol or smoking addiction

•  forcing the partner to drink or calling late at night after drinking parties

7. Friends circle

• How are the friends from his circle? Do they show respect while talking or talk impolitely?

8. Dominating behavior

• influencing all your decisions, not asking you about your opinion.

9. Forcing for a non-consensual physical relationship

10.  Not interested in your career growth or financial independence.

 These are a few signals; you need to be vigilant about something that is off track, and at any point you feel suffocating in your relationship or if someone is trying to enforce their love on you in any way,, consider that a signal and talk to your elders, there are NGOs that provide telesupport on the phone; your teachers; and your friends. Inform someone of the threat that you are feeling and secure yourself.

Rejection and failure need to be taken with an open heart; not every relationship turns into success . It takes a bigger heart to just love someone unconditionally and accept that the other person is not interested.

Live and let live peacefully.

We hope this article helps you understand appropriate behavior in loving relationships. If you still find yourself confused, please talk to us .