How to deal with relationship drama

The foundation of partnerships is love. The foundations begin to tremble when there is a lack of love. We will discuss a few ideas for maintaining harmony in this article. Certainly, a few tips won't be enough. Never be afraid to ask for professional assistance. We provide one-on-one sessions for couples.

 Things to consider:

• Acceptance: Whether it is a love marriage or an arranged marriage, one important aspect is to accept the person as he or she is without expecting them to change later. I had a case where a girl wanted divorce after six months of marriage. The reason was that she believed that after marriage, her husband would change his non-vegetarian food eating habits. If you expect a person to change his or her lifestyle after marriage without discussing this before marriage, it is an unrealistic expectation. Accept the person with his or her weaknesses and strengths, his or her thoughts and opinions, his or her career and lifestyle, his or her financial status, and his or her family background.

• Sharing and caring: share your emotions and feelings with one another, try to understand how one reacts in different situations, and identify the "red signal" (something that triggers anger or fights), Start taking care of each other's needs, which can be physical, psychological, or materialistic. Show your unconditional love and concern through your words and actions.

• Expectations: Expecting others to understand your "man ki baat" (things you have in mind) without telling or sharing is not good. Be clear about what you want, and don't expect others to interpret unsaid words or cues. Spend special time with each other, even if you are busy at work or handling kids. Find a time when only the two of you can have some private moments. Go out, plan dates, and surprise each other.

• Support: No matter how bad some days are, it is very important to show support to each other. Kind words, a simple hug, holding hands, sharing work at home, financial support—everything contributes to a strong relationship. 

•  Forgiveness: How you respond to arguments and disagreements in your relationship is critical. If you keep sulking and thinking of taking revenge, then it is a cycle that never stops and keeps on increasing the negative vibe.

• Gratitude: Be grateful to each other for everything. Saying thank you to your partner generates positive vibes and also enhances your bond.

These few tips are useful if you are thinking of getting married or you are already married and trying to maintain a healthy relationship, but if you are already struggling a lot and have some thoughts about your marriage, then do contact us for personal consultation.

Teja Shivasharan